Guys,take note of this

Guys,take note of this

By Mitesh   08:53   1 comment:

If you have to open your mouth, don’t put your foot in it. Here are things you must never say to your sweetie.

Luckily, humans haven’t evolved to the point of reading each other’s thoughts yet (not that we know of, anyway). Chances are we would have wiped each other out ages ago if we could hear the unfiltered inner dialogue of our fellow men and women. Sometimes, these secret thoughts slip out in moments of brain-dead cluelessness. They can be career suicide if divulged at work and socially devastating if unleashed amongst friends, but nowhere else can they be as damaging as when they are blurted out to your girlfriend. Here are some of the most common things guys just shouldn’t say to their girlfriends.

SAY YOU SAY ME: Be supportive towards her

SHE’S HOT!
File this one under ‘E’ for ‘extremely freaking’ obvious!’ It’s natural to look, normal to admire, but just downright stupid to vocalise to your girl. Even if your girlfriend is the first to notice and comment, it’s not an invitation for you to starting panting in agreement. What it is, though, is an invitation to tell your girl how much hotter she is. She knows you admire other girls from afar, but she just doesn’t need it thrown in her face. Depending on your individual relationship, it might even be kosher to point out an attractive female from time to time. Be tactful, keep your wits about you and your unabashed gawking can continue without serious consequences.

MY EX WOULD...
Looking to immediately start a fight? Compare your current girl to your ex, whether it be favourably or otherwise. She trusts that you’ve moved on… completely. Bringing up your ex in any light brings this all into question. Telling her how your last girl would cook your favourite pasta or give you back rubs will certainly not result in a massage. It will result in her fretting away about you straying back to the meatloaf-cooking ex. And a girlfriend in that state of mind is a girlfriend ripe for fighting. You are forgetting that girls develop an instant and all-encompassing hatred for a guy’s ex-girlfriend once they begin dating. You are safest to not even bring her up, under any circumstance.

YOUR FRIEND IS A FOOL
Girls develop a special brand of loyalty usually only found in soldiers or abused dogs. So calling one of her girlfriends a fool is going to get you nowhere —even if it is true. If you want to keep things in a good way, respect her the way she respects you. If the situation continues to affect your quality of life, corner the lady and ask her point-blank what her problem is. Most of the time it will revolve around you hogging your girlfriend’s time, or a perception formed almost exclusively on your girlfriend’s commiserating with them during the rocky patches. If this girl can’t get over her hang-ups and come around to your side, it’s time to let your girlfriend know. But choose your words carefully, and do your best to avoid flat-out calling her friend a fool. It will make your argument a lot easier to win.

TOGETHERNESS IS BLISS: Think before you make a comment

I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU
Girls dig confidence, and moping around whimpering statements like this will be a major turn-off. Keep your chin up and remember that you are a superstar and she is lucky to have you. Even if you don’t feel that way, acting like it will make you more like the man she wants you to be. She’ll feed your ego and breed real confidence that ultimately ends with you becoming a better person. But whining about your shortcomings will plant seeds of doubt into her head. It puts you further under the microscope and could eventually convince her that you are right — she is too good for you. Nice job, hot shot.

IF YOU REALLY LOVED ME YOU WOULD…
This lame, desperate line of reasoning rarely (if ever) works. Putting conditions on her love for you is about as low as it gets. You are smart guy; you don’t stoop to this level to get what you want. Bribe her with flowers, shower her in chocolate, or just man up and ask her straight. That will get you a lot closer to what you want than trying this pathetic rationalisation.

YOU ARE JUST LIKE YOUR MOTHER
Girls love their mothers with a touching and inspiring level of intensity —- but they also fear few things more than becoming their mothers. So letting this slip will lead to many, many problems, whether you are right or not.

I AM NOT IN THE MOOD
It’s an odd double standard that few people talk about. Women can use just about any excuse in the book to put off sex, from hair appointments to gas pains. But if a guy is too tired or just not up for a go, it rattles the very foundation of the relationship. She thinks men are sexual deviants with no off switch, and your saying no means something very sinister and deep in her mind. It’s almost better go through the motions. You can try to explain to her rationally, but all she will hear is you telling her she’s overweight, or that you already got some with the cute receptionist in the copy room.

I DON’T LIKE THAT PIECE OF CLOTHING
Women have been extremely sensitive to being controlled by their men. So loaded statements, even made off-the-cuff, can get your girl’s back up and make things really interesting. Of course, by really interesting, we mean intense, uncomfortable and completely devoid of sexual contact. If she is wearing it, she happened to like it enough to spend money on it. Making an announcement like this not only brings her tastes into question, but it also leaves you looking like a backward, unsmart man.

DON’T GET SO EMOTIONAL!
Injured cows, Oprah, sappy car commercials — it doesn’t take much to get girls crying. Most of the time, we find it beautifully endearing. But when things are a bit scrappy and the waterworks come out, it’s easy to snap at her. Don’t. She can’t control it; women are just wired differently than us non-feeling, emotionally bankrupt men. It is in your best interest to ride out the tears and eventually work things out without resorting to this clichéd response to her display of emotion.

courtesy:BT

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Why we sleep: It’s not just for that rest

Why we sleep: It’s not just for that rest

By Mitesh   09:42   No comments:

New Findings Suggest That Sleep Plays A Crucial Role In Flagging And Storing Important Memories
Benedict Carey

The task looks as simple as a “Sesame Street” exercise. Study pairs of Easter eggs on a computer screen and memorise how the computer has arranged them: the aqua egg over the rainbow one, the paisley over the coral one — and there are just six eggs in all.

Most people can study these pairs for about 20 minutes and ace a test on them, even a day later. But they’re much less accurate in choosing between two eggs that have not been directly compared: Aqua trumped rainbow but does that mean it trumps paisley? It’s hazy. It’s hazy, that is, until you sleep on it.

In a study published in May, researchers at Harvard and McGill Universities reported that participants who slept after playing this game scored significantly higher on a retest than those who did not sleep. While asleep they apparently figured out what they didn’t while awake: the structure of the simple hierarchy that linked the pairs, paisley over aqua over rainbow, and so on.

“We think what’s happening during sleep is that you open the aperture of memory and are able to see this bigger picture,” said study author, Matthew Walker, a neuroscientist who is now at the University of California, Berkeley. He added that many such insights occurred “only when you enter this wonder-world of sleep.”

Scientists have been trying to determine why people need sleep for more than 100 years. They have not learned much more than what every new parent quickly finds out: sleep loss makes you more reckless, more emotionally fragile, less able to concentrate and almost certainly more vulnerable to infection. They know, too, that some people get by on as few as three hours a night, even less, and that there are hearty souls who have stayed up for more than week without significant health problems.

Now, a small group of neuroscientists is arguing that at least one vital function of sleep is bound up with learning and memory. A cascade of new findings, in animals and humans, suggest that sleep plays a critical role in flagging and storing important memories, both intellectual and physical, and perhaps in seeing subtle connections that were invisible during waking — a new way to solve a math or Easter egg problem, even an unseen pattern causing stress in a marriage.

The theory is controversial, and some scientists insist that it’s still far from clear whether the sleeping brain can do anything with memories that the waking brain doesn’t also do, in moments of quiet contemplation.

Yet the new research underscores a vast transformation in the way scientists have come to understand the sleeping brain. Once seen as a blank screen, a metaphor for death, it has emerged as an active, purposeful machine, a secretive intelligence that comes out at night to play — and to work — during periods of dreaming and during the netherworld chasms known as deep sleep.

“To do science you have to have an idea, and for years no one had one; they saw sleep as nothing but an annihilation of consciousness,” said Dr J Allan Hobson, a psychiatry professor at Harvard. “Now we know different, and we’ve got some very good ideas about what’s going on.” NYT NEWS SERVICE

Some neuroscientists say that at least one vital function of sleep is tied to learning and memory

courtesy:TOI

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CONFIDENCE

CONFIDENCE

By Mitesh   09:36   No comments:

Who's putting you down? If it's someone else, it really doesn't matter. Your own self-confidence will ride it out. Anything others send your way will just roll off your back.

But if it's you who's putting you down...you have immense power. You can make yourself feel incredibly small. And you don't even need any help. But there is no reason. Like everybody else, you have both strengths and weaknesses and you should have confidence to follow both, eager for success, aware of failure and ready to face both, knowing that they are both steps on any journey.

What is confidence?
Your love for your real nature.
The destruction of your negative thoughts.
The transformation of imagination Into reality.

Don't let the person closest to you hold you back.
Anyone who ever gave you confidence, you owe them a lot.

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Try and Try

Try and Try

By Mitesh   09:01   No comments:

I have always seen life for what it really is.
Ever since I was a child growing up, hard times are all I know.

Life is like a newborn baby struggling to come out of its mother's womb,
life is a struggle true enough, but after all the struggling you have done,

Don't let life beat you or you will be walking around like zombies.
Keep on pushing, keep on trying, life can be whatever you make it to be.

But life can also be a bowl of cherries with whip cream and apple pie.
I say this again; life is what you make of it.

You can achieve or conquer anything it throws at you,
you can't quit or give up, you have got to keep on working,

Life is nothing but a big struggle .....
just keep the faith and focus on your goals.

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Wine, Water and Beer

Wine, Water and Beer

By Mitesh   17:57   1 comment:

To my friends who enjoy a glass of wine... and those who don't...

In wine there is wisdom, in beer there is freedom, in water there is bacteria.

In a number of carefully controlled trials, scientists have demonstrated that if we drink 1 liter of water each day, at the end of the year we would have absorbed more than 1 kilo of Escherichia coli, (E. coli) ¡V bacteria found in feces. In other words, we are consuming 1 kilo of poop.

However, we do NOT run that risk when drinking wine & beer (or tequila, rum, whiskey or other liquor) because alcohol has to go through a purification process of boiling, filtering and/or fermenting.

Remember: Water = Poop, Wine = Health

Therefore, it's better to drink wine and talk stupid, than to drink water and be full of crap.

There is no need to thank me for this valuable information: I'm doing it as a public service

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The Art of Looking

The Art of Looking

By Mitesh   17:51   No comments:

Look clearly at life and not just your own,
how much is reality, and how much is unknown.
It's not measured in beauty, possessions or wealth,
but measured in consciousness and judged by yourself.

Do you wonder if this is your chance,
to examine the future and all that might last?
Material things just gather the dust,
whereas thought becomes life force and this is the thrust.

A look in the mirror at the start of each day,
a vision of emptiness ...but a nice résumé.
It's all in the cards ~ but its not yet a deck.
sit back and slow down, take the time to reflect.

Look clearly at life and into your own,
understanding the choices that cannot be postponed.

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